While jargon has the advantage of communicating a lot of information in a short amount of time, it has deeply alienating effects on those even slightly outside the field of reference. Director, actor, and master communicator Alan Alda uses examples from film sets and hospital rooms to illustrate jargon’s impact on our interactions, and how it can exclude those we are trying to communicate with. 

Now more than ever, we need to find ways to foster connections and encourage close relationships with one another. The solution, Alda explains, is to use jargon only when you are confident that it is completely understood by the person you are speaking with. Otherwise, you risk losing the opportunity to truly communicate, causing misunderstanding and even disinterest.

Approaching conversations with this level of empathy creates an environment where all listeners can feel included, encouraging them to learn, share their ideas, and continue keeping knowledge accessible.

Alan Alda: Jargon gets a bad reputation for good reasons, but there's something good about jargon, and I think it should be explored because jargon hangs on, I think, in our speech because it has a usefulness. When people in the same profession have a word that stands for five pages of written knowledge, why say five pages of stuff when you can say one word? And if the other person understands it exactly the way you understand it, then jargon has usefulness. The trouble is we develop such specialized words that they're not understood by people at just a little distance from our expertise.

For instance, even show business, which you wouldn't expect to have a technical jargon, where you might not expect it—even show business has it, movie making. "Take this gobo and put it on the century over there, and hurry up because this is the martini shot. And while you're at it, bring me a half apple." Well, that's not understood to most people, and it's crystal clear to somebody who's been on a movie set for a while. I guess I have to explain it or people will be writing your letters saying, "What does all that mean?" A "gobo" is a thing that blocks out light. A "century" is a century stand made by The Century Company many decades ago when their name is on the stand—it's a stand that holds up a light or a gobo. The "martini shot" is the last shot of the day before you go home and have a martini. And a "half apple" is a box half the size of an apple box that you can put things on, like people who are too short. So that's jargon for a movie set.

But jargon has another evil use aside from separating us from one another, and that is that when we want to use it to make ourselves look really smart. "I'm smart, I talk like this. You can't really talk like this, so you're not as smart as me." A lot of us do this unconsciously, and it's not necessary. We get more done if we open ourselves up. It's really fun to be on the verge of saying something that is probably not gonna be understood by the other person. And to say, "Wait a second. How can I say this in really plain language?" And if we do that, sometimes we learn more about the jargon than we thought we knew. We humanize it, we reduce it to the simplest concepts. What are the concepts that really matter in this? And then the jargon sometimes gets cleaned off and polished of some of the luster of highfalutin that doesn't help... doesn't help the jargon be helpful.

Choice of words does matter, it matters a lot. But I think that it's important to remember that if all we do is get the right words in our head and the right order of words and think that that's gonna make all by itself good communication, I think we're missing the boat because really effective communication is not just because I have something perfect to say to you. It really occurs when you understand and internalize what I have to say and are able to make it your own, to remember it, and that kind of thing.

Here's an interesting example of that: One of our medical students who we were training to communicate better was on rounds with a supervising MD. And the doctor who was in charge was talking to a patient, and he had to explain to her that she had incurable cancer and she was gonna die. And he was talking to her. And as he was telling her these, all this was really hard-to-take information, she wasn't asking questions. And you could tell by the look on her face, or at least the medical student could tell by the look on her face, that she wasn't understanding it. She was just listening with kind of a blank expression. And the lead doctor said, "Okay, so I'll talk to you later," or whatever he said, and left.

The young doctor, the medical student, said, "Do you mind if I stay for a few minutes with her and talk to her?" And he was given permission to do that. So now, he sat down right opposite her and took her hand in his, and he started to say many of the same things that the other doctor had said, but he didn't use the same words. So the words changed. He didn't say "metastasis." He talked in simpler terms, but he was making contact with her. He was looking at her eyes. He was opening himself up to her as he talked to her. And little by little, she started to cry and she started to ask questions. And finally, she understood she was gonna die. And he helped her through that understanding. He helped her get that understanding because she wasn't protected against this barrage of impersonal communication that the other doctor had been giving her.

What he said to us, what this young doctor said to us, the medical student, was that it brought him back to one of our basic exercises, the mirroring exercise, where he has to mirror the movements of another person. And when that happens well, you get in sync. And he said, "I was mirroring her. And then she began to mirror me because she helped me be a better doctor because she responded with tears to what I was saying, which let me know she really understood me." He was so moved by the experience that he began to cry himself in the experience. And I don't think he was crying because he felt her pain at the awareness that she was gonna die. I think he was moved because that this connection had taken place. And he realized that the movement he had made during the workshops to be able to make this kind of contact with another person was a profound experience. And he said that he would never forget the experience and how it came from the simple mirroring exercise. So that was a wonderful experience for us to hear about because it was a personal way of letting us know that people can be changed by this.